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"Can I have an autograph?"
I'm not sure if this is a frequently touched on subject, I haven't seen too much on this subject.

Celebrities at weddings. Does ANYONE have experience w/ that?

My fiance is a tour manager for some heavy hitters in the heavy metal/ rock industry. These bands/ band members/ crew are close friends of ours. People that we visit and send christmas cards to (and receive them from). They are invited to our wedding.

A few we know for certain will be there so long as there are no tour dates booked for our 1 January 2010 wedding- which is unlikely, and the reason that we chose that date.

Because we have other friends in the music industry attending, and our "normal" friends don't get all star struck we weren't prepared when *one of the guests on the periphery of our list* turned to us the other night with a "you're going to have THEM AT YOUR WEDDING?!?"

I almost had a heart attack. Not only did my day suddenly become about the showcase of bands that will be there, but now my friends are going to be harassed by my other guests?!

Has anyone had to deal w/ something like this? I know we usually have to deal w/ keeping guests away from other guests because of hostilities, but I didn't realize that there was a polar opposite to that!

I can easily talk to my guests that I think will freak out about this beforehand. That's not a problem. It's when the ball gets rolling at the wedding itself when everyone has relaxed and they think I'm not watching that I'm most worried about.

*And let me also mention, that this one person isn't the only one who will get star struck- a few family members more than likely will as well.*

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_last_serenade_ From: _last_serenade_ Date: June 25th, 2008 01:27 pm (UTC) (Link)
lol, awesome question. my ex (who i'm still good friends with) is a bassist in a somewhat popular band, and he's getting married in january of 09. i'll be seeing him friday and i'll ask him what his plans are, because i'm sure he'll have some similar stuff happening on his fiancee's side of the wedding. :)
garters_n_heels From: garters_n_heels Date: June 25th, 2008 09:42 pm (UTC) (Link)
Oh that would be awesome of you!
Thanks so much!
nattydotorg From: nattydotorg Date: June 25th, 2008 02:21 pm (UTC) (Link)
I think prepping folks in advance would be helpful. Would there be an opportunity for some of the folks to meet the celeb folks beforehand so that they get to know them as people and the wedding can be a more casual and normal environment? Maybe a pre-wedding engagement party or a bachelor/ette party with a whole bunch of folks? If these are all people you know and are close with, it'd be nice if everyone could meet anyways (although, sometimes colliding circles can be stressful)

Also, your friends are likely used to being celebs and all that goes hand in hand with that. They probably wouldn't mind signing a couple of autographs and taking a few pics. As long as it doesn't get out of control and it doesn't interfere with the day being your day. Maybe you could snag some signed headshots in advance to give to anyone you are concerned about? So then they have no reason to be a bother?

But mostly, talking to the folks you are concerned about is the best bet.
garters_n_heels From: garters_n_heels Date: June 25th, 2008 09:46 pm (UTC) (Link)
I'm definately planning on talking to everyone I invite about this. I really don't want my guests (any of them) to feel uncomfortable. Nor do I want to be known as the girl w/ the crazy tact-less friends.

I don't want to say that they're "used" to being celebs nor that they're ok w/ being asked for autographs. When we all go out to dinner and one of them comes back from the bathroom w/ a "you're never going to believe what this one dude kept asking me while I was at the urinal" story.... I just want them to be comfortable w/ being at a social event w/o being harrassed.

Thanks for the advice though!
serialkiller From: serialkiller Date: June 25th, 2008 02:57 pm (UTC) (Link)
from my perspective, any guests that would take the time to get all starstruck oooh lala really have no tact. a) the day is about you+your man and they should know that, b) famous people are people too and they should be allowed to go to weddings without being harassed.

I wouldn't say anything to your guests cause they're going to arrive there with expectancies. They're gonna be on watch the whole time wanting to know who is going to be there. Put your bridal party on alert and they should handle if they see any guests getting out of line or being too intrusive. Also, you could seat the famous people in a specific area so they could be easily watched. You shouldn't be doing any watching, you should be able to have fun at your own wedding. Get that bridal party on the case! :)

I've been around famous people in scenarios and I didn't really bother them despite my fandom, after all, they're people too.
garters_n_heels From: garters_n_heels Date: June 25th, 2008 10:43 pm (UTC) (Link)
Good call on the bridal party! Didn't even cross my mind- horribly absent minded as that sounds! haha
eelny From: eelny Date: June 25th, 2008 03:57 pm (UTC) (Link)
who are the famous peeps? ;)

Yeah, just talk to everyone in advance. Maybe add a little note to your invite ? I dunno the best way to handle it. Email?
garters_n_heels From: garters_n_heels Date: June 25th, 2008 10:45 pm (UTC) (Link)
lol- noone! haha- noone special!


I know that I will be talking to people in advance, I don't want to throw that info in the invite. They'll get the same invite as everyone else and can you imagine? haha "be on your best behavior and don't ask for autographs" lol

J/K- but I understand what you were saying!
eelny From: eelny Date: June 25th, 2008 10:51 pm (UTC) (Link)
welllll, u could go to the trouble of throwing in a little note in everyone else's invite... that's what I was going for. But that could be a pain in the ass and embarassing if the famous peeps hear about it at the wedding. Good luck!
garters_n_heels From: garters_n_heels Date: June 25th, 2008 11:18 pm (UTC) (Link)
Not a bad idea- I'll have to think about it!

Thank you! *smooch*
eelny From: eelny Date: June 25th, 2008 11:46 pm (UTC) (Link)
my pleasure, good luck, have fun! Post PICS!! I love seeing famous peeps in person, although I am *too cool* to react to any of them :)
widowspeak From: widowspeak Date: June 25th, 2008 04:17 pm (UTC) (Link)
We had a senator attend our wedding. Luckily, the press was banned from attending by my parents (and my father is NOT to be trifled with) and most of my parents' peers knew him already.

We warned our friends that a government official would be there in an unofficial capacity, and after the initial, "Your parents are friends with a senator?!? No way!" things calmed down. Most of them just shook hands with him and said, "It's an honor, sir." and went on with the party.

It's a good thing the other government people my parents knew couldn't attend, because it would have been damn near impossible to keep the press out. Damned vultures.
garters_n_heels From: garters_n_heels Date: June 25th, 2008 10:49 pm (UTC) (Link)
We're pretty sure that we aren't going to have press/ photographers outside like hawks.... but one never knows. I highy doubt it though- the metal scene isn't one that usually gets followed around by Star magazine or something similar.

Yours is the scenario that I'm hoping for. I'm not saying to not make contact- just don't be a total jerk. They're there for the same reason as everyone else!

Thanks for the boost of confidence in my guests though!!
From: triedthistwice Date: November 10th, 2008 08:49 pm (UTC) (Link)
I honestly thought I was the only one with this problem! I cancelled my wedding until further notice, but I pretty much had a giant talk with everyone that was like "Look. These people ARE PEOPLE and they're my friends. Don't make an ass of yourself okay".
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