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creative thinking help
hey all, i've been a member for a little while and have been reading the posts, but never made one of my own. well, i need some creative thinking from like-minded creative brides.

for a while i had been thinking i was going to make my own dress, but all of a sudden a few weeks ago i just started looking at big white dresses, and i wanted one. after much internet surfing and obsessing, i tried on a few and settled on one that just was amazing when i put it on. great, that's done.

here's the part i need help with. i don't really like veils. when i was planning on doing my own dress, i was going for deconstructed victorian so i was thinking about wearing a mini-top hat with blusher/birdcage veil. now that the dress is picked out, well, i am not sure that will work.

here is the dress:


i think it really is beautiful, and in my mind works with our Victorian/Alice in Wonderland tea party/garden party. but i don't think that this dress will work with a mini top hat.

i started looking around more (obsessive much?) for other options, but the big Victorian tea hats don't seem to match the dress either, and i am unsure how a birdcage veil would look. i suppose a birdcage/fascinator would be ok, but do you have any other ideas for a hair thing? i saw some orange blossom wreath/tiaras that could work, but i wanted to see if you amazing ladies had any other suggestions for me.

for reference, my hair is short (slightly shaggy pixie cut) and it's going to be short for the wedding.

thanks wonderful ones!

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adventure_girl From: adventure_girl Date: June 26th, 2008 06:05 am (UTC) (Link)
percussivebunny From: percussivebunny Date: June 26th, 2008 06:10 am (UTC) (Link)
i have all evening been searching etsy for fun things like this, and i missed the first link - thanks for that, it's beautiful!

do you think that a fascinator will work with the gown? i hope so, i think they are great.
adventure_girl From: adventure_girl Date: June 26th, 2008 06:12 am (UTC) (Link)
Oh, I think you should. Especially if you are planning to do something whimsical for your wedding (which, when I think "Alice in Wonderland", I think of whimsy rather than just pink polkadots and Cheshire cats...). Also, I think fascinators look great on folks with short hair.
percussivebunny From: percussivebunny Date: June 26th, 2008 06:17 am (UTC) (Link)
i agree about Alice, whimsy and a little insanity is what i love about it. the tattoo in my user pic is my cheshire cat on my back - which is not going to be covered for the wedding, dammit. it's my back, and everyone can just start at my cat for a while! :)
adventure_girl From: adventure_girl Date: June 26th, 2008 06:22 am (UTC) (Link)
Uh... why on earth would anyone cover their tattoo at their wedding?

Don't get it.
percussivebunny From: percussivebunny Date: June 26th, 2008 06:30 am (UTC) (Link)
when i was at the bridal store they have a box of tattoo cover up make up. i went, oh, that's something i will NOT be using. of course, then my mom asked me what i was going to do about my cat, and i ignored her. :)
adventure_girl From: adventure_girl Date: June 26th, 2008 06:35 am (UTC) (Link)

I considered getting another tattoo before the wedding -- one I've been wanting, that's symbolic of my fiancee and I. I think I've pretty much decided that I don't have the time or money right now to do it, but probably this fall I will. :)

My tattoos will pretty much be all covered, but that's more a function of where they are located. The next one is going on my left scapula.

Of course, if I had a dumb tattoo, I might cover that up. Like a butterfly or something.
relena_wolf From: relena_wolf Date: June 26th, 2008 06:25 am (UTC) (Link)
I think a fascinator would definitely work. The only thing you'll have to watch for is clashing whites, which shouldn't even be a problem if you work with the artist. I think a mini tophat could even work if you really wanted it. It would just need to be cocked at a jaunty angle.

Are you wearing a ribbon/sash with the dress? If so, in what color?
percussivebunny From: percussivebunny Date: June 26th, 2008 06:30 am (UTC) (Link)
i think the dark blue ribbon - definitely a shade of blue for sure. but i'm not sure if i should do the 2" ribbon or the wider sash that trails down the back of the dress. more decisions! argh! :)

and top hats should always be at a jaunty angle, i totally agree.
olivetree From: olivetree Date: June 26th, 2008 11:50 am (UTC) (Link)

I am totally making my own. They are super duper easy! Just make sure to get super strong glue. :)
percussivebunny From: percussivebunny Date: June 26th, 2008 04:07 pm (UTC) (Link)
what glue would you recommend?
olivetree From: olivetree Date: June 27th, 2008 01:51 am (UTC) (Link)
here, have a whole tutorial!: http://corvustristis.livejournal.com/3205.html
percussivebunny From: percussivebunny Date: June 27th, 2008 07:08 am (UTC) (Link)
awesome, thanks!
corvustristis From: corvustristis Date: September 6th, 2008 12:58 pm (UTC) (Link)

Thanks for the link!

If you make one, I'd love it if you'd post pictures to the tutorial post. It helps encourage me to make more tutorials.
catbirdgirl From: catbirdgirl Date: June 26th, 2008 11:50 am (UTC) (Link)
check out this-
offbeatbride listing on short hairstyles

percussivebunny From: percussivebunny Date: June 26th, 2008 04:09 pm (UTC) (Link)
great, thanks for that link - i love offbeat bride, but must have missed that. :)
marence From: marence Date: June 26th, 2008 05:18 pm (UTC) (Link)
I think a mini-top hat with a blusher or birdcage could work, depending on color and style - white satin hat, band to match the dress sash, and a rhinestone-studded white netting could be really cute.
Or a fascinator that looks good with the dress, and if you're crafty you can save a bunch of money by cruising the aisles in craft stores and picking up items that "hit" you + a large comb + tacky glue or a glue gun.
I too have really short hair and will be wearing it semi-spiked with a tiara/veil combo I made. I hadn't intended on wearing a veil - or a tiara - but they fell into my lap and it just worked. Tiaras look really cute in short hair, as do wreaths and headbands - as short haired brides, we can carry off almost anything, without having to pay $100 for an updo!

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