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Need help thinking outside of the box...
I'm looking at all these sets of champagne flutes, cake knifes, guest books, ring bearer pillow & flower girl baskets and it's making me mental.

I'm approaching burn-out and I need help for fun ideas that don't look like this standard issue crap!

Please help.

Thank you in advance.

(x-posted because I'm desperate)

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pfc_rat From: pfc_rat Date: June 17th, 2008 06:08 am (UTC) (Link)
Champagne flutes: how about beer steins, vintage or antique glasses, handmade clay goblets, pewter mugs...
Cake knives: I used a sword, it's a Scottish tradition
Guest Books: picture frames, engraveable silver plates, puzzles where everyone signs a piece (you can get these custom made)
Ring Bearer pillow: how about a treasure chest, tied to a stack of books, stuck in a fake bird's nest, in a flower pot, on an RC car, or something else fun
Flower Girl basket: Have her carry a small bouquet or flower ball, or a single long-stem flower, have her blow bubbles down the aisle, or hand out candy (wrapped of course) to the guests, or ring a bell, or wind chimes, or play a kazoo, or anything fun that a little kid can do
catbirdgirl From: catbirdgirl Date: June 17th, 2008 11:34 am (UTC) (Link)
only do the things of these that you actually care about.


also the antibride books.

pumaviking From: pumaviking Date: June 17th, 2008 02:18 pm (UTC) (Link)
we were on the "only the stuff you care about" plan & took advantage any time the site coordinator said "will you be bringing in your own XX, or would you like to use ours?" Their cake cutting set, their toasting glasses. No ring bearer or flower girl. We used a blank journal (it was purple!) for the guest book - we just looked for something that didn't make us gag. If you're sick of white lace and ribbons, skip the hallmark store entirely. Just sayin'.
janetmajorsnyc From: janetmajorsnyc Date: June 18th, 2008 12:10 am (UTC) (Link)
we're not using champagne flutes because we think they're laaaaame
Cake knife we couldn't care less about
Ring bearer pillow we went with an etsy find:http://pan0.etsy.com/il_430xN.21285856.jpg

But Brooklyn bride is starting to make very sweet pillows: http://bklynbride.blogspot.com/

guest book is an address file box: http://pan1.etsy.com/il_430xN.29304065.jpg

oh and our card holder for the night- my swiss bicycle basket from MOMA (same as picture except i'll take the strap off for the event and mine's white): http://bp3.blogger.com/_7YY6d1WSHNM/R6G63qeyD-I/AAAAAAAADr0/mudKMmloxgc/s320/Carrie_Shopping_1_big.jpg
awfief From: awfief Date: June 18th, 2008 05:59 pm (UTC) (Link)
I agree with other folks. We didn't have toasting flutes because we didn't do speeches and thus no toasts. And honestly -- even if you do a toast, just use whatever the bar will use to serve champagne to everyone else.

cake knife set -- We just used one we'd had at home. You don't need anything fancy. Just go to a store and buy a cake knife set, they're like $10 or $20. Or just use something from your parents or the bakery.

guest book -- why? I don't like guest books because whatever gift I give I also include a card, where I've written nice stuff. People don't want to do work like that at your wedding, and nobody wants to babysit the guest book and pester folks to sign it. If you want something with a similar sentiment, there are picture frames with large mats that people can write on in permanent marker, but since what you really want is good wishes from your best friend, not your great-aunt marie that you only see at weddings and funerals, you can ask your friends to do something like that.

ring bearer pillow -- just have the ring bearer carry the ring box.

Flower girl basket -- Just find a basket you like. It doesn't need to be decorated. Or just have your flower girl(s) walk down the aisle, but not throw petals, so you don't need a basket.

Also, if you really don't care, have someone else in charge of that. That kind of stuff is great for involving people. I really didn't care about flowers at my wedding, so I asked my mother to be in charge of them, and she felt included (and spent way more than I would have, but it was her $$).

Then again, why are you so dead set against anything that looks like "standard issue"? My anti-bride wedding was anti-bride because we had family and friends help with a lot of stuff. My sister used her wedding dress to make a flower girl dress for her daughter; my mother used some of the leftover stuff to make a pillow. It was a way for them to be involved on something that I really didn't care about.

Hope this helps; in general just ask yourself if you really need it.
blondebaroness From: blondebaroness Date: December 19th, 2008 09:19 pm (UTC) (Link)
Charm some lovely friend of the family to take around the autograph book. I gave that honor to the woman who was my mom's maid of honor. She loved doing it and it made her feel special. You could also give the job to someone who needs to be kept busy and out of your hair.
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