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x-posted from my journal

Well, since I never got around to making a real wedding post, I'm going to do my best to do so now.
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I found this on Offbeat Bride and I think I'm jealous!


(X-posted to my own journal, cause, rrrrrrowl!)

I'm not sure I've introduced myself, so...er...HI!

I'm "Twisty". I'm 21, a gamer and amature jewelry maker living in Richmond, VA. I don't think I've ever had a "proper" white WIC-y wedding in mind in my life. I was raised in the SCA and, up until a few years ago, I wanted a Renaissance wedding.

And then, my Darling Browncoat-Captain and I discovered Firefly. We were dating at the time (though he was in Richmond and I was in the D.C. Area) and that, for the brief run it had, was our date. We'd turn it on and call each other and we fell hard for that ill-fated show.

So, when we finally started planning our wedding after a 4-year engagement (and many naggings of "when are you two getting MAAAAARRIED?"), we decided that a Browncoat wedding was a good idea. After all, he hates dressing up and loves Asian culture, I love steampunk and Victorian clothes, and we both couldn't be more nerdly if we tried.

So, despite the naysayers and rampant Wedding Industry snobbery, we're still planning and I find that this place has all the warmth and awesomeness I've been seeking. Thank you, antibride, for existing.
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So, my partner and I have finally decided we're actually ready to do this marriage thing. We spent yesterday working on a variety of pre-wedding stuff, and it raised a few questions, so I thought I'd share what we'd done, then ask for some advice.

First, we found a beautiful place to get married. It's a state park very close to where we live, and for $450 we get full day rental of a nice area for the reception, an area for the ceremony and a beautiful redwood grove for...whatever. It's wild enough for us, and still comfortable for our guests. Plus, as my partner says, we get to include the directions for spotting poison oak in our invitations :)

Second, invitations are chosen. Just have to figure out what to say on them.

Third, we've got some to cater.

Fourth, decorations are plotted and plans. Drapey fabrics for table and bench covers that can be used for other things after the wedding. Tulle/something fluffy to wrap in the rail fence. One or two sunflowers in miss-matched thrift store vases for center pieces. Hopefully flowers will be taken care of by my partner's mom and sister, they're artsy like that.

Now, questions
1) Anyone have any recommendations for low-cost photographers in the San Jose area? We don't want a photographer, per ce, but our families would, collectively, stab us if we didn't do it. Photo students maybe? We just wanted a fairly small number of decent looking pictures, and don't want to drop too much on it.

2) Wedding cakes! I really don't like cake much, and wedding cakes always taste gross. Plus, lots o' cost for something I don't even get to take home after. Alterna-wedding cakes? Low-cost wedding cakes? I don't bake, and don't know anyone who bakes, so this will be a purchase thing.

3) A place in the bay area to buy hardy, reasonably low cost, loose fresh flowers (sunflowers, mostly). Also, recommendations of flowers that work well with sunflowers and will be available in late September. I was thinking maybe a farmer's market? We're making exactly 2 bouquets, one for me and one for my sister (three or four flowers each) plus a crown for me to wear, and one or two flowers per table.

4) Officiants. We are adamantly non-religious, and do not want any relgious overtones in our wedding. Where do we go to find someone that would perform a pretty basic ceremony that involves very little of him/her actually talking. Again, cost is an issue.

Thank you much for any advice, is appreciated. Cross posted to alternative_wed and antibride and, for good measure and a wide reader base weddingplans
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Not that I even went on a honeymoon, but you know what I mean.

The wedding was great, everyone had fun. Blah Blah Blah.

Does any of that stuff matter, really? Maybe sometimes. But for me, timing sucks. Since I just had a wedding, well obviously I spent money. But what sucks is that I dont have a job anymore. Things have been so slow at where I was working, that they didnt need me anymore. And I also owe 2K in taxes, which is kind of all I have left after the wedding. I wasnt really planning on not having a job -right- after the wedding. If I had known...I might not have even had the wedding at all. I obviously cant go back and change things. But it is just really depressing.

Wedding hype is just so useless, because the truth is what happens after the wedding, how you can support each other. If the ribbons on the bridemades dresses dont match the same color as the ribbons on the invitations...meh, useless.

I guess Im more anti-bride now than ever, because this wedding stuff is over for me, and I need to find a real job, big time.

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LONDON (Reuters) - It is the one moment every man wants to get right -- and which London floor-fitter Lefkos Hajji could hardly have got more wrong.
The luckless 28 year-old's dreams of giving his sweetheart, Leanne, 26, the ultimate proposal have literally vanished into thin air.
Hajji, of Hackney, east London, had concealed a $12,000 engagement ring inside a helium balloon. The idea was that she would pop the balloon as he popped the question.
But as he left the shop, a gust of wind pulled the balloon from his hand and he watched the ring -- and quite possibly the affections of his girlfriend -- sailing away over the rooftops.
"I couldn't believe it," he told The Sun newspaper.
"I just watched as it went further and further into the air.
"I felt like such a plonker. It cost a fortune and I knew my girlfriend would kill me."
Hajji spent two hours in his car trying to chase and find the balloon, without success.
"I thought I would give Leanne a pin so I could literally pop the question," he said.
"But I had to tell her the story -- she went absolutely mad. Now she is refusing to speak to me until I get her a new ring."
He is hoping the ring will still turn up.
"It would be amazing if someone found it," he added.

Sounds to me like this could be the best thing to ever happen to him! She sounds like a bitch!

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i'm so frustrated trying to find a dress. i can't sew, and don't really have the means or the time, but i don't really want a big typical wedding dress. im more thinking a audrey hepburn funny face type dress something high necked (bateau?/sabrina) and big and full at the bottom. i'm also getting married on the beach and am thinking that i don't want something long that's dragging in the sand.... maybe something tea length..... anyone got any suggestions?
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The Vegas, Leap year day, Pirate Ship wedding was great. And fun.

I got my professional photos the next morning...wee!

The photographer had so much fun during the wedding and shoot.

Flickr Photo Set

My dad said that everyone who worked in the chapel at Treasure Island were so thrilled with our wedding, because our outfits and rings were so unique. I also got my hair and Makeup at the spa/salon in Treasure Island. The make up girl was so happy when I told her what I had in mind. And the hair woman, I told her a few keywords, and she gave me the coolest hair, with a Victory roll! Weee!
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Done done.

That is it.

It is now on its way via FedEx to Las Vegas.

All made by me, even my little hat.
Might be a bit over the top...mabybe? Is that possible on your wedding day.

I realized that your wedding dress should be an almost hyper version of yourself, or who you want to be. This dress, while not intended to, came out more 50s than I thought it would. So what does that say about me? I want to be from the 50s, but in silver...ha.

I love my dress, Ive been working on it for a month. (Not the actual dress, just practicing sewing and getting used to the pattern).

Now that its done, and I made it, I know I could never get married in something bought in a bridal store.

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In a recent post advice was asked on ceremony scripts. So I thought I'd post the entirety of the script I wrote for my own wedding (Sept 1, 2007), for the community's reference. We grabbed bits and pieces from here and there and then changed them around. We decided to have absolutely no religion in our wedding, by the way. lj-cut for lengthCollapse )
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